You are fascinated by the BDSM practices of the hard sex of domination and obedience, but do not know how to start? First of all, you have to admit yourself that it incites the thought of this type of sex and then confess to your partner your hidden sexual desires. But, to put them into practice, you have to make sure that everything happens in complete safety. Here’s how a beginner can do in the hard sex secrets with different types of anal toys!
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An essential first step in initiating the BDSM is prior information. Do not get yourself into a job you know nothing about. Scout! Read about the rough sex practices, the methods used, the “utensils” used, the benefits, the dangers, and the testimonials of those who practice it. Before you get along the way of hard sex, it’s good to know what you’re doing.
It also takes into account that there are two sides of the BDSM. The partners are either the ones who dominate the sex game, or those who are left behind. Sometimes I can do it in turn, depending on sexual preferences. At this point, ask yourself: Am I willing to be tied up with a scarf? Am I willing to be bound to bed? Am I willing to get my boyfriend a neck strap? Do I have enough strength to “whip” my beloved belt while having sex? Only after answering these questions is it advisable to follow the next steps.
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You need a trusted partner
Tough sex does not work with anyone. Man or woman, any man who ventures in this way must have confidence in his or her sexual partner. You cannot squeeze someone with the whip on your back without knowing you will not react negatively.
Moreover, partners need to know the limit of pain, and this is gradually obtained by the actual practice, making small steps from one method to another. Do not tie the strap to a woman’s neck directly without having tried it first with a soft scarf, not a very tight neck! For all this, you need a partner to talk openly about what you want and what to do with you.
Make a list of “yes, no, maybe”
To make sure that you and your partner are on the same wavelength, conceive together a list of what you are willing to do together, what you do not want to try at all with what you want to try, but you are not sure it will hold. It is only when all of them are listed that you begin to know your own limits, but especially the limits of your partner. Together, you do not want to wake up for shouting “Stop!” Fixed in the middle of the game, after your partner tried something that he did not know you did not like.
Once you’ve created the list, start experimenting. Start with the “light”, gradually moving step by step to the “hardcore” ones. In this way, continue to discover and delineate your own borders.
A sex bondage game means as one of the partners is limited movement or visual field. Specifically, the dominated partner is tied, tied or tied to the eye, and then the erogenous or intimate areas are stimulated by any type of sex, masturbation or the use of sex toys.
Satisfaction of the dominant one must be expressed freely, by any kind of sound or attempt to liberate itself, and that excites the dominating one. The exchange of sexual domination and pleasure of pain are those that make bondage “anything else” among sexual practices. If you want to try, you have 5 bondage techniques for a wild sex game:
Strips, scarves
The basic rule in bondage is to have limited movements and to bring pleasure to both you and your partner. For this you can use ropes, string, metal or puff, scarves, ties, textile. In some sex shops you can find Japanese rope – a type of rope special for sex bondage parties. Bind his hands when you sit on top, let yourself be tied in positions with penetration from behind or in the position of the missionary, link to your eyes during prelude or oral sex party.
Sexual roles
Sex roles are primarily a fantasy and a fetish at the same time. They are used very often during sadomasochistic and bondage practices, precisely because by using suits you fit better into a person’s skin and easily adopt different sexual behavior. For a partner, you can choose a doctor suit, a policeman, a commander, a teacher, and for you, a costume for assistance, a schoolgirl, a policeman. Associate the costumes with specific objects or masks and use them to stimulate erogenous zones.
Fringes, leather, silk, velvet
Excitement and sexual pleasure during bondage also come from the fact that you do not know what to do next, that you cannot stop the sensation that provokes you and you do not know what area to be stimulated or with what object. Couples who already have some experience in bondage or sadomasochism (the two practices have a strong connection) use leather objects that have targets, fringes or vibrations, because the sensation of natural skin directly on the skin increases sexual pleasure. Equally exciting can be to stimulate erogenous areas with a velvet, vinyl, latex, silk or silk object.
Sex toys
Here you go free and imaginative but also to any sex shop. There you will find almost everything that goes through your mind for bonding: vibrating, penetrating, penis, vibrating, penis or clitoral pumps, suits, whips, etc.
Spanking
The engagement also involves a movement that belongs more to sadomasochism – palpation. If you are a beginner, use your palms only for the mowing, pushing or snapping of erogenous areas. If you want to move forward, palm your thighs, buttocks and hips during positions where he penetrates you from the back or stays on top.
This practice does not encourage violence. Everything happens with the measure and this must be established in advance through a discussion between the partners. Do not forget, bondage techniques must primarily cause pleasure.